Let's Talk Spiritual Health: Alone But Not LONELY

Some women secretly carry guilt that they have misappropriated as daughters, thinking it was their fault that their fathers didn't stay with their mothers. Or they didn't receive enough attention or affection from their fathers/mothers. If you're one of those women, usually, you are always trying to prove yourself. Growing up is hard work. It is even tougher when today's woman is wrestling with yesterday's little girl. Somewhere deep beneath the painted smiles and polished nails is a longing, an aching, a void. Somewhere beneath the symbols of success lurks a feeling of incompleteness.

The emptiness taints yours successes and taunts your accomplishments. You are either distrustful of men as a whole or you idealize a man's attention as the epitome of success and fulfillment. You may be afraid to be alone. You may feel as if you have been alone all of your life, and you fight the feeling by adding people in your life. Sometimes the enemy of loneliness can be so overwhelming that it can cause you to add the wrong people into your life, or go about it in the wrong way of adding people into your life. If you are wise, you would know that having people in your life, in your house, or even in your bed doesn't ensure that you will not be lonely. When we really come to know God, we can be alone and still not be lonely. It is when you understand the gift of being alone that you will really be ready to share your companionship with someone else.

Whenever someone is involved with you, they become a part of what was going on in you before they came around. For some men, that is traumatic because if the woman isn't full of joy and content with who she is, she will soon be unhappy with him around. She will go from madly in love to distant and frustrated because she expected him to be all that she hasn't gotten out of life. At first, she is excited. Later, she is disappointed because she realizes that she is still involved with a wound from her past. It is a void that only God can fill.
Most Christians are seated so high on their perch of self righteousness that they often fail to minister to the pain behind the sin. They often are concerned about the habits of sin. But they don't see to understand that removing the act doesn't free the heart. It just represses a problem that manifests in cynicism and frustration. People are teachable when they are not in pain. It is like telling a child not to scratch a rash. They will do it even if they do it in their sleep because of the discomfort felt. But if you can apply a soothing ointment, the habit is easily broken.

I am sorry that we live in a world filled with pain and rashes, with imperfections and scars. But,in all of my searching, the only thing I have found that will soothe the itching for affection and the bleeding from scars is God. It is not fair, nor is it possible to put that type of pressure and expectation onto another person,then that would be putting your faith in man, and he is not capable. A friend, your child, your parents, your spouse, your companion cannot heal open wounds, past afflictions, unresolved hurt, only God can and He will, just go to Him. He will never leave nor forsake you.

Happy Spiritual Health!