Thursday, March 10, 2011

Ok, You Caught Me Looking..I Have A Crush On Your HAIR!!


Hola Chicas/Chicos..have you ever been caught staring at a natural's hair that you were just drooling over? Or, you may have caught others staring at your natural in awe...I know I have..Once they are caught, you hear, ' I absolutely love your hair'. Nice,right.. Well, I'm not sure if I have been caught, but I don't normally like to stare, but when I run across a natural with big beautiful healthy hair, I get weak in the knees. My eyes get caught in all of that thick curly, coily, kinky mass of wonderful..besides, they can't see me staring from a picture..teehee.
So, we all have some sort of hair idol..and when I heard that I was someone's hair idol, a slow moving tear slid down my delicate cheek trickling down to the floor...Oh, my, how dramatic..just kidding, about the tear, that is. But I did feel great hearing that...but I, like so many other naturals, have our pick of hair crushes. I, for one, love huge hair. Bushy, thick humongous coiled hair.

What natural look inspires your hair crush?

Here are a few images of some of my hair crushes that make me go WOW!









It's great to have a hair crush, but the most important thing to remember is to have the biggest crush on your own hair.



Happy Healthy Hair

photo credit: www.fuckyeahcurlscurlscurls.tumblr.com

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Let's Talk Hair: Is Natural Hair So Black and White??


Hola Chicas/Chicos...so, I was thinking about the term 'natural' and what it truly means to be natural. I mean, does being natural simply mean having hair that is free from chemical heat alteration (relaxers, perms)? How about dry heat manipulation/alteration (blow dryers, flat irons, pressing combs)? How about using products that contain synthetic chemicals (shampoos, conditioners, styling products)? Artificial Hair dyes?

Now reading various hair forums I have come to realize not everyone has the same definition of "natural" hair. See, I always thought that so long as you didn't chemically change the texture of your hair, it was natural. Press it, dye it up, stick a weave in...if it wasn't relaxed, texturized or otherwise straightened with some type of chemical, as far as I was concerned, you could say you were natural and call it a day...hmmm.

Some definitions of 'natural' are:

  • In its original or raw form
  • Untreated, tanned or refined
  • Not tinted or colored; undyed
  • check this out...Afro,a hair style originating with black persons, in which the hair is allowed to grow naturally and to acquire a bushy appearance, was listed as part of the definition of 'natural'.
  • Not artificially colored or dyed
  • Having undergone little or no processing and containing no chemical additives
  • Free from affectation or constraint

So, is 'being 'natural' so BLACK and WHITE?

What's your definition of being natural

Happy Natty Hair

photo: www.fuckyeahcurlscurlscurls.tumblr.com

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Let's Take A Bow For The Pick...AFRO-LICIOUS


Greetings Chicas/Chicos..Ode to the Fro..
Now, I can't stress enough how excited I become when I see a natural rocking a beautiful full afro. It's just something about the kinky coily mass of healthy hair, lookin' all strong and bold, that makes me just drool. Whether you use a pick or rock a braid or twist out fro, a wash n go fro, or just plain wake up in the morning and while you're yawning, ruff your fingers through your mass of healthy goodness, it's all O'So lovely. Let's see we have the classic fro, the fro hawk, the fro ponytail, the braid out fro, the twist out fro, the picked out fro, the blown out fro, the curly fro, the wash n go fro, teeny weeny fro, the fro with the braided front..whew! I feel like Bubba from Forrest Gump when he was naming all of the ways to eat shrimp...

Now, I love to rock my fro as a bushy twist out fro...the bushier, the better.


So, my lovely naturals, how do you love to rock your AFRO-LICIOUS??


















Monday, March 7, 2011

Let's Talk Ayurvedic Health..Have You Had Your CHAI TEA Today??



Greetings, my lovely naturals..now I'm sure that since your journey to O'Natural many of you have heard the term Ayurveda. Ayurveda is a system of traditional medicine. It's based on centuries of experience in medical practice, handed down through generations. It is regarded as 'The Science of Life' and the practice involves the care of physical, spiritual and mental health of humans. The time honored, well tested ancient formulas of Ayurvedic medicines use natural herbs, minerals and even gems to cure disease and promote immunity minus deadly experiments on testing animals.

Whew..now that that's done..let's look at some of the ways that you can incorporate Ayurveda into your lifestyle to promote healing for your mind, body and spirit.
  • Healthy Hair: I have noticed that my has thrived now that I incorporate an Ayurvedic regimen into my hair care routine. My hair is fuller, stronger and overall healthier.
  • Healthy Body and Mind: I must admit, I am not very versed in yoga, but I have witnessed the power of ease it brings to a person's overall energy. I am in the beginning stages of learning and truly putting into practice the spiritual art of meditation. I have a hard time relaxing and even when I am so called 'resting', I have a lot of noise and constant thoughts in my head. It's definitely much harder than I thought, but excellent exercise for the mind. Massages, using herbal oils or herbal creams are also a part of Ayurvedic healing. It releases toxins and impurities. It's also great for unblocking energy chakras. And we all love a nice massage. There are many other physical remedies that are part of the healthy healing for our bodies using Ayurvedic treatments.
  • Healthy Internal: Ayurvedic health include fresh herbs and spices, herbal teas, and whole, fresh, organic, in season local foods. It includes incorporating all six tastes at every meal: sweet, sour, salty, bitter, pungent and astringent.
So, this brings me to the wonderful, soothing herbal goodness, Chai Tea. I first had the pleasure of tasting this goodness served over ice at a Thai restaurant. It was so yummy. So last year, I visited a local Indian Grocery store and I ran across a box of Chai Tea, and I was super excited.

So, exactly what is Chai Tea?? Chai Tea is a combination of herbs with tea and milk (I use almond milk). Most Chai Tea contains the herbs cardamom, black pepper corns, fennel, ginger, cinnamon, or cloves. All healthy delicious spices. And although the tea contains these spices, they do not overpower the tea and honestly, it is the most delicious tea that I've ever tasted...EVER! So now that I've drooled over how delicious it is, let me fill you in on the wonderful benefits.

Chai Tea and it's benefits:
  • Boosts Immune System
  • Helps to lower blood pressure and cholesterol
  • Helps to ease nausea and diarrhea
  • The clove, which is an antifungal, added to the tea is known to help with colds and flu
  • The cardamom is a digestive aid and is helpful with indigestion. It improves metabolism, helps with impotence, helps with depression and oral disorders.Cardamom also stimulates the mind and promotes clarity.
  • The nutmeg is known to help with mucous membrane
  • The ginger in the tea is known to stregthen and heal the respiratory and digestive system
  • The pepper has both antibacterial and antioxidant properties. It prevents gas and improves digestion.It also improves blood circulation. It induces sweating which cools down the body, therefore reducing fever.
  • And don't fret about the natural caffeine, three cups of Chai Tea is the equivalent to 1 cup of coffee.
Just Brew your water as usual and steep your Chai Tea for at least 5 minutes. Add milk and sweeten (I use honey or Agave Nectar) and enjoy.

Chai Tea can be purchased at any health food store or local Indian Grocery Store.

Happy Ayurvedic Health

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Let's Talk Hair: Nique's Bushy Twist Out Fro



Hola Chicas/Chicos..I am blessed to say that I, like so many other naturals, receive great compliments on my natural hairstyles. I receive so many when I especially do my two strand twist out and even more when the twist out is 3-5 days old. Keep in mind that an old twist out does not mean that I did not retwist my hair daily or when needed.  The question of, 'How do you get your hair like that??' Or having numerous non ethnic beauties say, 'O how I wish my hair could do that'. Soooo, let me tell ya my method..

I, like many other naturals, have a style that we just absolutely love and will rock it until it can't be rocked no more. This is my favorite. Now, every one has their method of how they preserve protective styles like their twist outs or braid outs, and every one's method works for them. Once you find your niche and what works for you, ROCK IT!.Again, this is my method and what works for me.

My Ole' Twist Out Method..The Preservation:
  • I two strand twist my hair and leave the two strand twists in overnight (see my post on My Two Strand Twist Out).
  • I take my twists down using my O'Natural Natty Butter. Since my hair is a bit shorter and I have pretty thick hair,  I do not untwist more than once because it can cause unnecessary frizz, unless I want my hair to actually appear bushier, then I will untwist more than once. 
  • At night, I moisturize my hair with plain ole distilled water, a moisturizing spray, a moisturizing cream , then apply my Natty Butter and sleep on my satin pillow case. Again, since my hair is a bit shorter, I find I have to retwist more often than those who have longer hair, so my twist outs will maintain definition. The key is to make sure to moisturize the hair properly and seal in the moisture with a butter. I have found that using natural ingredients lessens the effect of product buildup and you will find that you truly do not need a lot. A side note: If using a moisturizing cream or leave in as a moisturizer creates buildup, opt for a moisturizing spray or simple water to hydrate the hair, then lock in the moisture with a butter.
  • The next morning, I just fluff my twists and re moisturize with my O'Natural Natty Butter and spray with Rose Water.
  • For the next night or two, I do not re twist and just let my hair do what it do...that's when I achieve the best bushiest twist out, when I LEAVE IT ALONE. I just fluff, fluff, fluff and strive to achieve a bushy twist out but with a few defined curls. I always, always, always moisturize with either a carrier oil, my homemade Natty Butter or with Rose Water (my finishing spray).
  • Sometimes when I want a little curl definition around my edges, I will re twist just around my edges and leave them twisted for about an hour or two, then untwist and voila, defined curls mixed with bushy curls..I love it!
  • When you are twisting, don't forget to twist your hair in the way that you want it to lay once it is dry and you untwist. For me, I twist towards the front and to the side to create a slight bang.
  • Bottom line...Twist out done on 'damp moisturized hair' gives you more defined curls. Twist out done on 'dry hair' gives you less defined bushier fuller curls and hair. You decide what look you like best for you.



Happy Twisty Hair

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Accessorizing Your O'Natural


Greetings my lovely beauties...how do you doll up your O'Natural??
I've noticed that since I have been rocking my TWA (teeny weeny afro), I have experiemented more with some (O)mazing accessories. My colors have been brighter, my eye shadow more playful. It's almost as if my natural hair opened up a brand new me...or let me say, the true me that was hidden inside of me. I must say, my style is more chic, but I really play with my accessories and eye shadow colors. That positive energy increases every time I hear, 'wow, I love your hair' or 'wow, you have an amazing look'. It's the hair and the accessories, I tell ya.

When I was featured on curly nikki's website, I was asked if having my TWA made me want to doll up my look to feel more feminine..you know, since many women feel more feminine with longer hair. I responded that the accessories do not make me feel more feminine, but the TWA has created a more artistic side when it comes to accessorizing. And what's even more amazing is that I feel so much more confident and free since I chopped my hair and have allowed it to reach it's full potential in it's all natural form. I can't tell you how many times I have made Walgreen runs to grab one of the L'Oreal Hip eyeshadows, or a boutique run to pick up a great makeup brush (organic, of course) or a great super shiny lip gloss to enhance that spark that I carry with my rediscovered natural-ness. And the bigger and fuller my hair, the more and more I fall in love with it.And before you blow your budget over enhancing your already beautiful selves..check out thrift stores, flea markets, Forever 21, H&M, and street festivals or create your own accessories and be absolutely O'So Unique.

So...how does your O'Natural make you feel? How do you doll up your look?


Happy Accessorizing!!

Friday, March 4, 2011

Let's Talk Skin: O'Natural Spot Treatments


Hola Chicas/Chicos...let's talk about fighting those hyper-pigmented spots the O'Natural way. So you clear up those annoying acne pests and you're stuck with the backlash of dark spots or hyper-pigmentation. Instead of spending unnecessary money on high end skin creams that contain harmful chemicals (by the way, the acne skin care industry is a multi billion dollar business,which gives you a hint of how much is spent on people seeking a way to achieve clear skin) how about investing in something that will go a long way, that's all natural and you probably have a few of the items in your kitchen cabinet...how bout' that. Another wonderful benefit is that all natural skin care is great for those with sensitive skin. Many commercial products contain chemicals that can be harmful to sensitive skin, causing the skin to itch and burn. And many store bought blemish creams make the skin sensitive to sunlight which can cause it to burn easier.


O'Natural Spot Treatments:
  • Tea Tree Oil, Lemongrass and Aloe Vera Gel or Leaf Juice: Take 1 TSP of Aloe Vera Gel, 3 drops of Tea Tree Oil, and 1 drop of Lemongrass oil. Mix well and apply to each spot/blemish. Allow the mixture to dry on your face. Apply toner and moisturizer as usual.
  • Lime Juice and Rose Water: Mix equal parts of juice of a lime and rose water and apply to face. Leave mixture on for 30 minutes. Rinse
  • Neem Powder and Lemon Juice: Mix 1 TSP of Neem Powder and enough lemon juice to make a thick paste. Apply to each blemish/spot and leave on for 15 minutes. Rinse . Tone. Moisturize.
  • Honey and Cinnamon: Mix 2 TBSP of raw honey and 1 TSP of cinnamon and apply to each blemish/spot. Allow to sit for 10-15 minutes. Rinse with lukewarm water. Follow up with cool water. Tone. Moisturize.

The Benefits of the Ingredients:
  • Tea Tree Oil: Has anti fungal, anti bacterial and anti viral properties which help to reduce inflammation caused by acne when applied topically.
  • Aloe Vera: Decreases swelling and redness associated with breakouts, and also helps soothe and hydrate skin.
  • Lemongrass: An anti-microbial and anti-bacterial herb. This means it will help limit bacterial or microbial growth on the skin.
  • Lime juice: rejuvenates the skin, protects it from infections, keeps it shining. It also lightens dark spots on the skin.
  • Rosewater: An antiseptic that contributes to the upkeep and preservation of skin. It also features antibacterial properties that are helpful in combating skin care problems.
  • Neem: Antibacterial properties helps to alleviate issues with acne. Neem also has anti-inflammatory properties which makes it an ideal treatment for breakouts.
  • Lemon Juice: Due to the acidic nature of lemon juice, it is effective for helping to lighten dark spots caused by acne.
  • Honey: Acts as a natural anti-bacterial, clearing breakouts and killing the bacteria that cause them
  • Cinnamon: Has strong antiseptic and astringent properties. Cinnamon is a wonderful natural alternative for spot treatments.

Happy Healthy Skin


credits: some info found at www.livestrong.com

    Wednesday, March 2, 2011

    Let's Talk Finances: 25 Ways To WASTE Your MONEY..Cha Ching


    Hola Chicas/Chicos...this one is a doosey..WASTING MONEY! Eeek,now if you are like me, you don't like to waste money, but you sometimes go overboard with spending money. You look at your bank book register and think 'holy catfight!' where did all of my money go?? Then you take a second look and say, 'oh, dag, I spent that?? what??' Yeah, been there, done that...but here are 25 Ways To Waste Your Money and possibly steer clear from doing it again.


    25 Ways To Waste Your Money: By Erin Burt of Kiplinger.com
    • Carrying A Balance: Debt is a shackle that holds you back. For instance, if you have a $1,000 balance on a credit card that charges an 18% rate, you blow $180 every year on interest. Get in the habit of paying off your balance in full each month.
    • Overspending on gas and oil for your car. There's no need to spring for premium fuel if the manufacturer says regular is just fine. You should also check to make sure your tires are optimally inflated to get the best gas mileage. And are you still paying for an oil change every 3,000 miles? Many models nowadays can last 5,000 to 7,000 miles between changes, and some even have built-in sensors to tell you when it's time to change the oil. Check your manual to find the best time for your car's routine maintenance. 
    • Keeping unhealthy habits. Smoking costs a lot more than just what you pay for a pack of cigarettes. It significantly increases the cost of life and health insurance. And you'll pay more for homeowners and auto insurance. Add in various other expenses, and the true cost of smoking adds up dramatically over a lifetime -- $86,000 for a 24-year-old woman over a lifetime and $183,000 for a 24-year-old man over a lifetime, according to "The Price of Smoking" 
    • Buying brand-name instead of generic. From groceries to clothing to prescription drugs, you could save money by choosing the off-brand over the fancy label. And in many cases, you won't sacrifice much in quality. Clever advertising and fancy packaging don't make brand-name products better than lesser-known brands. Clark Howard (self made millionaire said, 'the wealthiest people are usually the ones who are the least flashy..the least to drive expensive cars.' Fortunatley, I'm married to Mr. Generic Man himself, lol.
    • Keeping your mouth shut. No one wants to be a nuisance. But by simply asking, you may be able to snag a lower rate on your credit card.When shopping, watch for price discrepancies at the cash register, and make a habit of asking, "Do you have a coupon for this?" You might even be able to haggle for a lower price, especially on seasonal or perishable items, floor models or big-ticket purchases. Many stores will also match or beat their competitors' prices if you speak up. And try asking for a discount if you pay cash or debit -- this saves the store the cut it has to pay the credit-card company, so it may be willing to give you a deal. It doesn't hurt to ask. This happened with me in buying my used car three years ago, the dealer owed me money back because the tax percentage in my county was lower than where I purchased the vehicle. 
    • Buying beverages one at a time. If you're in the habit of buying bottled water, coffee-by-the-cup or vending-machine soda, your budget has sprung a leak. Instead, drink tap water or use a water filter. Brew a homemade cuppa joe. Buy your soda in bulk and bring it to work. (Better yet, skip the soda in favor of something healthier.) 
    • Paying for something you can get for free. There's a boatload of freebies for the taking, if you know where to look. Some of our favorites include restaurant meals for kids, credit reports, software programs, prescription drugs and tech support. You can also help yourself to all the books, music and movies your heart desires at your local library for free (or dirt cheap). Earthfare has ''itty bitty bite night''' where up to 6 kids eat free (and its all healthy). FTO has kids eat free on Wednesdays. And I'm sure there are a plethora of other places out there to pick up some free eats. 
    • Stashing your money with Uncle Sam rather than in an interest-earning account. If you get a tax refund each April, you let the government take too much money in taxes from your paycheck all year long. Get that money back in your pocket this year -- and put it to work for you -- by adjusting your tax withholding. You can file a new Form W-4 with your employer at any time. 
    • Being disorganized. It pays to get your financial house in order. Lost bills and receipts, forgotten tax deductions, and clueless spending can cost you hundreds of dollars each year. Start by setting up automatic bill payment online for your monthly bills to eliminate late fees and postage costs. Then get a handful of files to organize important receipts, insurance policies, tax documents and other statements. 
    • Letting your money wallow in a low-interest account. You work hard for your money. Shouldn't it work hard for you too? If you're stashing your cash in a traditional savings account earning next-to-nothing, you're wasting it. Make sure you're getting the best return on your money. Search for the highest yields on CDs and money-market savings accounts. And consider using a free online checking account that pays interest, such as ones offered by Everbank and ING Direct. 
    • Paying late fees and missing deadlines. Return those library books and movie rentals on time. Mail in those rebates. Submit expense reports on time for reimbursement. And if you make a bad purchase, don't just stuff it in the back of the closet and hope it goes away. Get off your duff, return it and get your money back before you lose the receipt. 
    • Paying ATM fees. Expect to throw away nearly $4 every time you use an ATM that isn't in your bank's network. That's because you'll pay an ATM surcharge, and your own bank will hit you with a non-network fee. Consider switching to a bank, such as Ally Bank, that doesn't charge ATM fees and reimburses you for fees other banks charge. Another way to avoid fees if there's not an ATM in your bank's network nearby is to get cash back when you make a purchase at the grocery store or drugstore. 
    • Shopping at the grocery store without a calculator. Check how much an item costs per ounce, pound or other unit of measurement. When you comparison-shop by unit price, you save. For example, if a pack of 40 diapers costs $13, that's 33 cents per diaper. But if you buy a box of 144 diapers for $35, that's 24 cents per diaper. You save 27%! (Of course, buying more of something only saves money if you use it all. If you end up throwing much out, you wasted money.) 
    • Paying for things you don't use. Do you watch all those cable channels? Do you need those extra features on your phone? Are you getting your money's worth out of your gym membership? Are you taking full advantage of your Netflix, TiVo and magazine subscriptions? Take a look at what your family actually uses, then trim accordingly. 
    • Not reading the fine print. Thought you were being smart by transferring the balance on a high-rate credit card to a low-rate one? Did you read the fine print, though? Some credit-card companies now charge up to 5% for balance transfers. Also watch out for free checking accounts that aren't so free. Some banks are starting to charge fees unless you meet certain criteria. 
    • Mismanaging your flexible spending account. For some people, that means failing to take advantage of their workplace FSA, which lets employees set aside pre-tax dollars for out-of-pocket medical costs. Other people fail to submit receipts on time. And the average worker leaves $86 behind in his or her use-it-or-lose-it FSA account each year, according to WageWorks, an employee benefits provider. 
    • Being an inflexible traveler. You'll save a lot of money on travel if you're willing to be flexible. Consider traveling before or after peak season when prices are lower. Or search for flights over a range of dates to find the lowest fare. Booking at the last minute also can save you money because hotels and airlines slash prices to fill rooms and planes. And flexibility pays off at blind-booking sites, such as Priceline or Hotwire, which offer deep discounts if you're willing to book a room or flight without knowing which hotel or airline (or other details about the flight) you're getting until you pay. 
    • Sticking with the same service plans and the same service providers year after year. Hey, we're all for loyalty to trusted service providers, such as your bank, insurer, credit-card company, mutual fund, phone plan or cable plan. But over time, as prices and your circumstances change, the status-quo may not be the best deal any more. Smart consumers are always on the lookout for bargains. 
    • Making impulse purchases. When you buy before you think, you don't give yourself time to shop around for the best price. Take the time to compare prices online, read product reviews and look for coupons when appropriate.Make it a policy to give yourself a cooling-off period in case you're ever tempted to make an impulse purchase. Go home and sleep on the decision. More often than not, you'll decide you don't need the item after all. 
    • Dining out frequently. Spending $10, $20, $30 per person for dinner can be a huge drain on your wallet. Throw in a $6 sandwich for lunch every day and you've got quite a leak. Learning to cook and bringing your lunch from home can save a couple hundred bucks each month. When you do go out, consider getting carry-out instead of dining in (you'll save on the tip and drink), skip the overpriced appetizer and dessert, and search the Web for coupons ahead of time. 
    • Trying to time the stock market. In trying to buy low and sell high, many people actually do the opposite. Instead, employ the simple strategy of "dollar-cost-averaging." By investing a fixed dollar amount at regular intervals, you smooth out the ups and downs of the market over time. If you take out the emotion and guesswork, investing can become less stressful, less wasteful and more successful. 
    • Buying insurance you don't need. You only need life insurance if someone is financially dependent upon you, such as a child. That means most singles, seniors or kids don't need a policy. Other policies you can probably do without include credit-card insurance (better to use the premium to pay down your debt in the first place), rental-car insurance (most auto policies and credit cards carry some coverage), mortgage life insurance and accidental-death insurance (a regular term-life insurance policy will do the trick). 
    • Buying new instead of used. Talk about a spending leak -- or, rather, a gush. Cars lose 20% of their value the moment they're driven off the lot and 65% in the first five years. Used models can be a real value because you can get a car that's still in fine working order for a fraction of the new-car price. And you'll pay less in collision insurance and taxes, too.Cars aren't the only things worth buying used. Consider the savings on pre-owned books, toys, exercise equipment, children's clothing and furniture. (Of course, there are some things you're better off buying new, including mattresses, laptops, linens, shoes and safety equipment, such as car seats and bike helmets.)
    • Procrastinating. Time is an asset money can't buy. Start investing for retirement as soon as possible. For instance, if a 40-year-old saves $300 a month with an 8% return per year, he'll have $287,000 by age 65. If he had started saving 15 years earlier at age 25, he'd have more than $1 million.
    Ok, so here they are and hopefully we will take heed to at least some of these tips to give us a better jump on our finances.

    Happy Savings

    credits: info found at www.kiplinger.com
    Photo: www.fuckyeahcurlscurlscurls.tumblr.com

    Let's Talk Spiritual Health: OBSTACLES



    Obstacles..we all have them at some point in our lives. Many times we view obstacles as a negative, but if we look at obstacles as gifts that help us discover our strengths, live up to our potential and learn compassion for all humanity, then we have gained wisdom. Obstacles, once we have victory over them, can lead us to become true testimonies to others who cannot find the strength to deal with adversities. My personal feeling is that I always learn from those who have had obstacles and became victorious over those obstacles, or ‘beat the odds’. They are my testimonies and my inspirations.

    In facing our obstacles, we have many choices to consider. Sometimes the pain is so great that many people simply give up. We mask our pain and use drugs and alcohol to help us pretend that nothing is wrong. We keep up appearances and even sometimes claim to have made progress in life that will make others think more highly of us. These can only prolong the suffering. We also have a choice as to whether or not we allow those obstacles to influence our characters in that we become negative thinking and speaking or extremely critical or cynical. These choices can create control dramas within our lives because we have not grown from those obstacles and been set free. The greatest choice is to acknowledge that there is an obstacle but remember that it is temporary. Pray, Seek help if needed, of course from those who are qualified to help, and gain wisdom from the situation. Sometimes when I have been faced with an obstacle I don’t always see the positive or the purpose until later. When I finally realize the positive gained from my obstacle, with God’s help, I have a quiet laugh, and then I say, ‘Ok, God, I get it. I hear you and thank you.’ I realize that these obstacles help me grow spiritually. Sometimes people come into our lives as obstacles themselves. This is where patience and compassion need to kick in because it is easy to show compassion to a person who is always positive and easy to deal with. The challenge is showing that compassion to those who are our antagonists. It is so easy for us to want to ‘tell them how it is’ and even if we are right about ‘telling them how it is’ are we effective? My mom used to always say to me, ‘Do you want to be right or do you want to be effective?’ Immaturity caused me to want to be right, spiritual growth prompts me to want to be effective. Wanting to be right prompts us to remain in our own comfort zone and become stagnant. Becoming effective helps us not only grow spiritually but also become a light to others.




    Happy Spiritual Health




    photo credit: darkskinnedblackbeauty.tumblr..com

    Tuesday, March 1, 2011

    Let's Talk Hair: Living The LYE..Relaxer Truths

    Relaxer Truths by DeeCoily


    A couple of years ago, I had to compose a "persuasive" speech for my public speaking class. I had to pick a subject and write a speech to persuade people to change their actions or their way of thinking about that subject. I chose chemical relaxers as my subject. I posted it on my web site, and many napptural friends have commented on how informative and helpful it was, so I thought it would be a good idea to submit it here so more people can learn the truth.

    The information was compiled from Tulani Kinard's book "No Lye" and Pamela Ferrell's book "Let's Talk Hair". If you're thinking of giving up the creamy crack, I highly recommend these books. There's a wealth of helpful information in them. They have become my hair bibles and helped me a lot once I made the decision to....

    STOP LIVING THE LYE!

    This is a phrase that I read in a book when I was researching what I could do with my hair other than use chemicals to straighten it. So many women today suffer from all types of hair loss. Alopecia, aging, heredity, and stress are some of the most common causes. The cause that is found in almost epidemic proportions in black women, however, is chemical damage from relaxers -- or chemical hair straighteners.

    The Process
    Most of us have no idea what these relaxers really do to our hair... how they actually go about the process of straightening. There are two types of relaxers. They are SODIUM HYDROXIDE (lye-based) and GUANIDINE HYDROXIDE (no-lye). Although the no-lye products are thought to be less damaging, both types are harmful to the hair because in order to straighten it, they must first strip it of its natural moisture and then break down the structure of the hair.

    Let me briefly explain. The hair has two bonds, a physical bond and a chemical bond, referred to as the S and H bonds. These bonds create the S-shaped kink or curl in African-American hair. Chemically processing the hair changes the molecular structure by breaking down these bonds... thereby damaging the hair. Once the bonds are broken, the hair loses its natural shape and elasticity, and can then be manually formed into straight hair. The changed S-shape bond can never be returned to its original healthy form. It has undergone a permanent change caused by chemical damage.

    Hair Damage
    Sodium hydroxide and guanidine hydroxide both have a very high pH factor, meaning they are highly alkaline products. When applied to the hair, they immediately strip it of all moisture, because any retention of moisture would reduce the effectiveness of the straightener. This is why a deep-conditioning treatment is always applied to the hair after the chemical process. These treatments are designed to drive moisture back into the hair shaft and to coat the hair strand to make it look shiny and appear healthy, or in other words -- to camouflage the damage. But no hair that has undergone a chemical relaxer is healthy. It's been purposely and permanently damaged by the chemicals... and hair can't be damaged and healthy at the same time.

    Relaxed hair is always dry. This is why we're constantly putting something on it.. oiling our hair and scalp two or three times a week. There are several reasons for this: 1) Start with the moisture-stripping process of the chemical relaxer that I spoke about in the above paragraph; 2) Add the steady regimen of hot-comb touch-ups, curling irons & flat irons (all work with heat which is drying to the hair) and hair sprays and styling/holding gels, (these contain alcohol which is drying to the hair). The natural oils our scalps produce can't serve our hair's needs. The scalp can't manufacturer enough natural moisture to replenish the moisture we're stripping from our hair on a daily basis; and 3) The products we usually use in an attempt to fight dryness (usually petroleum-based products, or "grease") don't really add moisture to the hair at all. They simply coat the hair with petroleum to provide shine. At the same time, they clog the pores of the scalp so that the scalp can't secrete its own natural moisture.

    I always thought black hair either doesn't grow as fast as Caucasian hair 'or doesn't grow at all. WRONG! All hair grows at the same rate 'on average 3/4 inch per month. But the reason that most black women have shorter hair is because of breakage. Why does the hair break? Because of the harsh treatment we give it. We strip it of its moisture in every way we possibly can! So after a period of time (short for some, a little longer for others) the need for a cut to camouflage the damage done to your hair will become evident. When your stylist suggests a 'designer cut' (like the fade), that's your cue that your hair has had enough.

    Skin Absorption
    In addition to the damage done to the hair by these chemicals, we should remember that the process involves more than simply straightening or texturizing the hair above the scalp. Chemicals are absorbed through the skin into the tissue, cells, and blood stream. We rub creams and lotions on our skin -- knowing that the skin will absorb them and be moisturized by them. The medical industry administers drugs through skin absorption -- like the patches for smoking, sea-sickness, and birth control. The skin absorbs everything; and as strong as these chemicals are 'causing sores and abrasions on the scalp' why wouldn't some of it be absorbed through the skull and possibly into the brain?

    Causticity
    The instructions on the relaxer boxes always say to wear gloves -- because the chemicals are caustic, however it is applied directly to the hair and scalp and left there for a period of time. Women experience burns and scabs from the toxic chemicals, and yet they continue to go back every few weeks for their regular dose of this creamy crack. The FDA banned the manufacture of household liquid drain cleaners that have a higher than 10 percent solution of Sodium Hydroxide because it corrodes drain pipes. Because it is so strong, it may cause dermatitis of the scalp. If left on the hair more than 10 minutes, it will dissolve the hair, causing it to tear easily and become fragile and limp. Would anyone put this cream on their face, or on their arm, and leave it there for 10 or 15 minutes? Then why put it on your head?

    Inhalation
    And then there are the fumes. A study done by the Cancer Surveillance program at the University California School of Medicine found the number of cases of blood cancer to be excessive for females in the occupations 'cosmetologist, hairdressers, and manicurist.' Dyes, shampoos, conditioners, relaxers, permanent wave solutions, nail antiseptics, fungi, and bacteria are the suspect causes of this. Although the study does not specifically look for race in the findings, it is known that blacks in these beauty occupations typically have higher rates of blood cancer. Also, frequent inhalation of this chemical can lead to lung damage.

    Love Yourself
    In order to stop these damaging practices, we must first learn to love ourselves as we are. Why should we continue the practice of chemically damaging our hair so that we can wear it in styles created for other hair textures when African-American hair can be styled beautifully just as it is? It's not hard to work with, and there are lots of varieties of styles to choose from.. From locks to twists to coils to afros... from dressy up-dos to the no-care-hair of free-styling. Our hair is not unmanageable, as many people think. My aunt once told me that our hair is easy to manage as long as we stop trying to force it to do things it wasn't designed to do.

    Hair doesn't have to be straight to be beautiful. It simply has to be well-groomed. There are books by natural hair care specialists that take you through every step of transitioning from chemically-straightened hair to healthy natural stylish hair. There are also support groups all over the country to help people cross over and maintain their natural hair. If you're interested in attending some of these gatherings in your area, visit our Napptural Gatherings Forum.

    Our skin is brown because it's supposed to be. Our hair is kinky because it's supposed to be. It's not something that needs to be fixed or hidden. It's not something to be ashamed of. It's just hair. It's not bad hair or good hair. Just hair. The idea that it must be fixed (or straightened) is left-over baggage from the days of slavery... an idea that we've held for so long that we don't even realize why we do it, and we no longer have a clue how to manage and maintain our hair in its natural state. We shun our own natural hair texture because we have been told for generations that nappy hair is bad. We've been made to feel that the only way to attain 'good' hair is to straighten it. We've turned perfectly neutral descriptive words into negatives. Straight isn't a negative word. Wavy isn't a negative word. When we can hear the words kinky and nappy as being purely descriptive and carrying no negative connotation, and when we can all 'stop living the lye', we will have made it to true acceptance of ourselves.

    Happy Lye Free Hair



    credits: article at www.curlynikki.com